Lakunmi’s Chopsticks: Loving Yourself The Right Way
AsÂ we say,Â everyoneÂ needs somebody to love them! So true but we also know that a lot of us get intoÂ relationships, cluelessÂ yet hoping to love that person and be loved by that person. Still, shit happens and things donâ€™t go right, I mean, things just fall apart that you wonder if you ever loved that person or if they ever loved you.
You must have heard people say â€˜you have to love yourself to be able to love somebodyâ€™. Although NeyoÂ sang the opposite of that,Â butÂ thatâ€™s the musical world, not the real world. If youÂ want toÂ love somebody and love them right, you have to love yourself first and if you already love yourself, you can do a check with the points I have come up with forÂ loving yourself.
TRUST:Â Â Do youÂ want toÂ know whyÂ this isÂ the first on the list? If you are going to date anyone, you have to trust them.Â If you donâ€™t trust yourself, how can you trust another? Â If you cheat people generally, you would expect beingÂ cheated by another, your subconscious will always want to double check people. So really, trusting yourself would mean you have to avoid being untrustworthy. Avoid shady deals that could ruin your personal confidence and trust in yourself.
FORGIVENESS: Some people are stillÂ beating themselvesÂ upÂ over things they did wrong last year. If you canâ€™t stand yourself making any mistakes at all,Â thenÂ you shouldnâ€™t be living. If you are findingÂ it hard to forgive yourself, how would you forgive another person thatâ€™sÂ close to your heart? And the truth is, it is normal that you expect so much from someone you share your love with. In fact, you expect them to be the last to mess things up or make mistakes,Â but then, being close to your heart doesnâ€™t make them super human so theyÂ would always make mistakes.Â TheyÂ will annoy you faster than anyone else but if you have learnt to forgive yourself easily, forgiving anotherÂ wouldnâ€™t be a problem.
INDEPENDENCE:Â You could ask yourself right now? Am I independent? Do I ALWAYS need people or somebody? Can I rely on myself? This is really important, being independent is a major thing in our world today. Some ladies rely on their men and vice versa,Â for their happiness, financial fitness among others.Â MostÂ singles feel dead once they aren’t Â in a relationship. Some people rely so much on their spouse that they let theÂ totalityÂ of them into that one personâ€¦I mean, how can anyone do that? You know you aren’t Â perfect, you may even be one of those that say â€˜nobody is perfectâ€™,Â yet you let yourself into another person thatâ€™s not perfect? Thatâ€™s not love, that’s irresponsibilityÂ on your part!Â Independence is like a virtue that everyone should possess because it helps in the long run.
So, enjoy the process of loving you!